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Source(google.com.pk)DD got post-partum depression, then psychosis. She had 3 (three!) mandatory psych hospitalizations of 4 days each at the beginning of January. Baby got horribly sick with Flu A while she was in the hospital. We rushed the baby to ER (myself, DH, and Marina). We didn't know the answers to the medical background questions they asked. Raised some red flags.
Turns out DD was LYING about medical treatment for the baby . . . no pediatrician, no vaccines, untreated exzema. I DID NOT KNOW. I simply believed her when she said she took him to the Dr. (turns out she was using the ER when she had a problem). Doc called in a report of medical neglect.
Social services gave her a slap on the wrist and made her navigate the system to straighten out an insurance hurdle, name a pediatrician, take him to a follow-up Dr. appointment and to draw up documents giving us Power of Attorney.
She did all of it in about 3 days. They made a home visit and interviewed everyone in the family. Things were fine and a social worker scheduled an early morning visit to have DD sign off on the paperwork. Well, after she "fixed" all the problems, she felt entitled to go out and celebrate with her friends (read illegal partying). Her baby was still sick and she was fresh out of a psych ward and we told her NO.
Her dad disabled her car so she couldn't drive it (by this time she had worked herself into psychotic mode again - raging and ranting and crazy talk). She finally wound down and went to sleep with the baby beside her in his crib.
She would not wake up when the baby cried that night. Her brother took one bottle shift and I gave Sage his early morning bottle, then put him back down. The social worker showed up at 7:30 am with the paperwork. We couldn't wake my daughter. She was heavily sedated and unresponsive. She'd been threatening suicide for weeks so I knew what she had done. I started screaming at her, asking her what she had taken. Turns out it was about half a bottle of Clonipin.
I screamed for my teenaged son to come get the baby and yelled for my husband to come help (he's an RN). I called 911 and the social worker called her supervisor. DD was transported by ambulance to the ER.
Social workers kept the baby in our care and prepared documents to give us custody. However, during the routine background screenings, our court case with Sasha turned up. "Child Abandonment" looks really, really bad on paper. The social worker went to bat and fought for us - kept telling administrators that Sasha was "incorrigible" and a danger to herself and the other children in the home - especially our little handicapped toddler, Zach.
But the supervisors overruled a placement with us and followed established, letter-of-the-law protocol. When the social worker arrived late in the afternoon (to finalize the placement with us I assumed), she instead said she had to detain the baby. I thought I was going to vomit . . . I've been a foster parent to more than 35 children myself. I knew the drill.
I held the baby and cried softly while Marina and my teenaged son gathered the baby's things. It was probably the saddest moment of my life. I felt utterly helpless. I lifted up Sage's chin and quoted from my favorite children's book as I looked in his eyes, my heart breaking in two: "I'll love you forever. I'll like you for always. As long as I'm living, my baby you'll be."
And then the lady took him from my arms. I haven't seen him since.
I asked little Zachary (my adopted child) if he thought Sage was scared as they drove away. Zach looked earnestly at me and said, "No, mom. Sage is brave like me. I wasn't scared when *I* went into foster care." And then he hugged me.
And then I started crying.
And I haven't stopped since.
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Posted by: CA girl ( )
Date: January 30, 2013 10:31AM
Re: Can't sleep, can't think, can't stop crying . (Really not O/T)
Oh Shannon - praying for you and your sweet grandbaby. Will keep sending out good vibes until he's back in your arms. It would be the very best thing for him to be with people who love him and will fight for him. Hang in there. Hugs.
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Posted by: cl2 ( )
Date: January 30, 2013 10:31AM
I'm pulling for you!! (n/t
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Posted by: stbleaving ( )
Date: January 30, 2013 10:36AM
Re: Can't sleep, can't think, can't stop crying . (Really not O/T)
Holy s***. This made me cry. Sending good thoughts your way. I'll be thinking of you as you head to your appointment with the social worker. Hopefully no one else will pass any information on to non-helpful family members--that certainly will add additional needless s*** to your plate.
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Posted by: ava ( )
Date: January 30, 2013 11:07AM
Focus on the present
I let my thoughts go into a future that hasn't happened. I recommend not doing this...example, your grandson going on a mission bc of the uber tbm in laws. No one knows if this will happen. There is a lot of time between now and then. You could get the baby back in your family andhe still could become mormon (just like my kids could). The worst and best outcomes are both equally likely.
Take care of yourself. Not being able to focus doesn't help anyone (particularly your grandson). I second the recommendation to talk with a child advocate or lawyer. A third party mediator could give you advice.
It may be that you won't be able to get the baby back. It s*cks but that may be the consequences. Prepare yourself and your family. You know what? Life isn't fair. I wish it were. I wish that all children were loved, that all capable grandparents could take care of their grandkids if needed.
I may not sound supportive, I am pulling for you and your family...and the triumph of common sense. I just know life doesn't always work that way. Some days I just have to live life on life's terms...accept what I can't change and change what I can.
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Posted by: Tahoe Girl ( )
Date: January 30, 2013 12:13PM
Re: Can't sleep, can't think, can't stop crying . (Really not O/T)
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